Don’t Forget To Join The Self Development Community – Click Here

Introducing Joshua Wolfe

How do you overcome your past fears, struggles, and trauma? 

Today I am proud to bring you my conversation with Professor Joshua Wolfe. Joshua is a professor of Psychology at the Rose State College. In today’s conversation, we talk about how to overcome our past mistakes, how to achieve more and the importance of learning. 

If you want to find out more about Joshua and what he’s up to, then you better check out these links:

www.facebook.com/helpyourshelfpodcast/

www.helpyourshelf.net

What We Talked About Today 

Today, we had a great conversation about education, overcoming trauma, and how to achieve more.  I certainly learned a ton from Joshua today, and I greatly appreciate having him on the show.  Make sure to take a listen to the whole episode to ensure you get the most out of our conversation. 

Hi Joshua, why don’t you start by telling us a little bit about yourself and what you’re up to in this world?

Joshua has just received his position as a Professor of Psychology at the Rose State College.  His passion is to figure out how our amazing minds work, and how we can better help the people around us.  Joshua also spends his time running the Help your Shelf Podcast where he reviews various self-help books from a scientific standpoint.  

Joshua has many ambitions, including his academic goals, and his goals as a professional counselor.  Josh wants to help people discover the tenants of psychology within their own lives.  This is a great example of learning by association which is one of the key values I teach with my content.  

How can we better help the people around us?

Joshua told me that the process starts by understanding where our perspectives about the world come from.  Traumatic and life changing events have a tendency to alter our perception about the world.  The metaphor he describes this situation with are your seeing glasses for the world.  We can help people to challenge their traditional beliefs and perspectives about the world. Doing this we can start to clean their glasses which make up their perspective about life and the world.

Who typically needs the most help and how do we get it to them?

Those who need help are the ones who are starting to notice the dysfunction in their lives.  There are a few things we can do to start helping these people.  One important step is to provide them the access they need for the help.  Some people are hesitant to receive help, and they may need more time or resources for their cause.  

Why are some people hesitant to receive help through counseling?

There’s a negative stigma around professional help for some people.  For some people, they think counseling shows they’re not strong enough, or that there’s something really wrong with them.  But most mental illnesses are a real chemical imbalance in the brain.  This fact shows that mental issues are a real medical issue which must be diagnosed and worked through.  Some people are difficult to work through, but there are some steps you may take to help these people.  One of the most powerful steps you can take is providing convenient and private resources away from the public eye.  The internet has provided many possibilities for private care you may be able to take advantage of. 

What creates the fear which holds many people back in their lives?

One cause of this fear is frequent comparison to other people and their situations.  Unfortunately, social media has made comparison all to easy.  People show off only the good parts of their life.  All the vacations, riches, cars, and luxuries in their life.  The struggle, hardship, mistakes, and setbacks are often missing from the posts and profiles containing all the good parts of life.   Joshua reccomends you to try baby steps towards a bigger goal when you are faced with fear. 

How do we overcome trauma and events from the past?

Joshua recommends you to take a few important steps to overcoming these problems from the past.  The overall goal of these steps is to shift your perspective about the world and your situation.  Questions, logic, and writing are good ways to examine your past and current situation.  Specifically, journals provide you a valuable opportunity to examine your life and make a real positive change. 

Self-Limitations hold many people back, how do we overcome these?

Many limitations are caused by your perspective about the world and yourself.  However, if you can rearrange your perspective, and think a little harder, you may be able to create a mindset shift.  ADHD is a commonplace problem and diagnosis for people in the world.  However, medication doesn’t always need to be the best option for these people.  There are certain steps you may take to control your needs instead of just relying on pharmaceuticals.  Things such as the creation of routines and shorter study/work sessions with more frequent breaks.  

Why do you love learning?

Joshua told me that constant learning allows you to always be opening doors which provide immense opportunity into your life.  You never know who you’re going to meet, what you’re going to build, or what you’re going to accomplish over the next year.  Learning also allows you to be focused on your task at hand while staying motivated for a longer period of time.  The day you stop learning, is the day you start dying.  

What can we do to help others love learning more?

The big thing we can do to help others is to help them discover what they’re really passionate for.  Everyone is passionate for something, but some people may have it buried deep in their minds.  Some people may have yet to discover this passion.  With all the opportunities available today, you can turn anything in the world into a passion.  This passion allows you to effortlessly learn, it allows you to stay focused, and enjoy the learning process. 

If you could only leave the audience with one piece of actionable advice, what would it be for you? 

The piece of advice Joshua gave me is to listen to those who you love.  But listen to understand them instead of just reply to them.  Most people listen during conversations or meetings only thinking about what they’re going to say.  But really think about what they’re saying, and try to understand their emotional perspective.  I must say this is something I have been guilty of, and I can’t wait to implement it into my life! 

Hopefully you guys enjoyed my conversation with Joshua, I certainly did.  Make sure to check out the Help Your Shelf Podcast with the links given.  Let me know if you have any questions or comments for either Joshua or I, and I will get those answered ASAP.